Tuesday, April 3, 2012


I knew you
We played catch in the summer
And you loved to run
I didn’t know much
But I taught you all of it

I wanted you
You loved your sister
And she cherished you
Her best friend
You taught her how to share

I  created you
My importance became tied to yours
As you made your mark on the world
My pride was in your happiness
My sorrows, in yours

I miss you
Your ghost runs through this house
Your mom cries for you
Your sister gets lonely, and
I can’t fix you.
I can’t fix any of us.


  1. Thank you for sharing this tender grief. It is important for those of us who have not had this experience to hear how it is. What is helpful for others to say and do, or not say and not do on Mothers and Fathers day?

  2. That's a great question, though I don't think there's a good answer. Certainly people shouldn't temper their happiness with their own mothers or families because others have had sorrow. I've seen a lot of people start including those who aren't mothers, either by choice or infertility, along with those who have lost children, in their Mother's day postings on Facebook. Having seen friends who have chosen not to have children feel left out on Mother's day, that's probably the best thing one can do - remember those who may feel pain on these days, and include them when you can.